I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “It is what it is”
Well not to sound so cold or heartless but it’s true. If there is a predicament…whatever the situation may be what good does it do worrying about something? Be proactive and do something about it. “It is what it is” means that it’s already happened right? So what can you do to change it? Can you do something to improve the outcome of what has already happened or can you improve your reaction to the outcome? Are your actions going to change anything? Can your actions make things worse? Whether good or bad, can you learn something from the situation & let it make you stronger & wiser?
It’s something to think about…….
What makes you strong? I don’t mean physically, I mean all that emotional yucky stuff?
It’s so easy to fall apart in situations where things seem so hopeless & it’s ok to have a moment….but let it just be a moment because if it’s anything more you’re wasting time.
It’s exactly one year ago today my oldest son got diagnosed with Cancer at the age of 24. That was the darkest moment of my life. I remember when he called me, I remained calm on the phone (he lived out of state at the time) & I told him I would go out there and we would figure it out. After we hung up, I dropped to my knees & curled up like a baby and sobbed for 1/2hr.
It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions since then but I can definitely say I’ve grown stronger. I refused to let him or any of my other children see me fall apart. I always keep a smile on my face & let him know that he will not go through this alone and he hasn’t. I remember on one of his MANY hospital admissions he was in pretty bad shape. He looked at me and told me “You know I’m gonna die right” and without missing a beat I told him ” We’re all gonna die, tomorrow is not promised to any of us and you have to make the best of each day.” He was discharged from the hospital 2 weeks later & has been making the most of his life. He’s been traveling with his friends and still working his dream job streaming for Smite Games.
It’s something I think about a lot ever since his diagnosis….Tomorrow is not promised to any of us….make the most of each day cause you never know. That thought alone….that’s what keeps me strong.
I first started Yoga in May 2014 because it was advised by my therapist (at that time) to find a physical hobby to help channel my anxiety & depression. I found when I was busy I didn’t have time to dwell on things that weren’t going right in my life. I was already Hiking which helped so I then began to dabble in Yoga. Yoga kept me occupied at first then slowly turned into a passion. Over time, without realizing it, I let go of the anger & bitterness and focused more on the things that made me happy rather than on the things that didn’t.
It took me a few years to realize that if I maintain my focus on all the good in my life it will overshadow the not-so-good. Life is not perfect & didn’t come with any guarantees. Everyone experiences pitfalls and setbacks but it’s your reaction to these situations that make all the difference in the world. You can choose to remain bitter & angry but where will that get you? Not too far. I chose to re-focus my energy in the good and let the good overshadow the not-so-good. Only you have the power to respond to each situation accordingly. Will you allow it to control you or will you control it?
You are in control of your own destiny!